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| 2006-09-09 23:25:38 |
Love and Marriage. Pathetic. |
 Not_A_Megalomaniac |
The L word. The M word. They screw life up something rotten and GOD some people don't deserve what they have.
Peej and I have a mutual older male friend who we've known for a number of years who is married to one of the nicest, sweetest, most inoffensive people on earth. I explained to him last night about my problems with the L word. He is also having similar problems in that he is in love with someone else aside from his wife.
I could swing for him. I am so angry I don't know what to think. He became friends with this woman somehow, possibly over the internet I think, I forget the details, and ended up becoming very very good strong friends. He reckons he didn't realise how close he was getting to her - but the way he described it to me he knew exactly what he was doing.
If I fall in love, I'm single, I can fall in love with who the hell I like, and if it isn't reciprocated, fair dos, if it is, even better. If, god forbid, I ever got married - that would be IT. When you get married, you stop looking. Even if you think you're not looking and you don't think for one minute you'd ever want to find anyone else - WAKE UP FOR FUCK'S SAKE!! He's an intelligent man, platonic friendships between members of the opposite sex never work because sooner or later one of them at least is going to develop feelings for the other. As I've discovered on more than one occasion, first occassion to my horrifying detriment. It's fucking obvious. The idiot.
You may think I'm looking at this in a very black and white manner. But as far as I'm concerned there's nothing grey about it. Really. I don't profess to be judgemental - but for god's sake how can you hurt the person you've promised to spend the rest of your life with? I could never ever do that to someone. I really couldn't. I've seen my brother have his heart broken and his life systematically torn apart by the bitch who married him and then proceeded to become the fucking town bicycle. There's something so heartless about it I don't know how anyone can do it.
Okay he's not having an affair - but he wants one. He's 'settling' for his wife cos they've been married for over 20 years. How would you like to be 'settled' for? He said something about him and this bird having 'respect' for nearly 50 years of marriage so they're not doing anything about it. If you have ANY respect for the person you're married to you wouldn't do that to them in the first fucking place. It must be hellish to know about that and then live the rest of your married life feeling like you're just second best. His wife doesn't deserve it.
He's entirely put me off ever saying anything to Nathan. In fact I'm determined to just keep the hell away from Nath from now on, just in case. I hate the way he's been so lovely to me since my brother went to prison though. Why!!! They're so confusing, these men.
Why can't all men be like Tim Brooke-Taylor?!
Mood - Actually not as upset as I seem!
Music - None at the moment. |
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