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2006-06-19 21:44:19
Let me tell you a very sad story. Comments required!!!

And it's sad because it's true, however I would value ANY comments at the end.

Sorry if this makes you cry a bit, by the way.

There was once a girl called Ellen Naomi Cohen who grew up in a Baltimore - somewhere in America.  She was 5'5" tall and was extremely overweight - dangerously so, you might say.  However, she had THE most amazing personality, immediately befriended everyone she met and was loved by probably the whole wide world.  She also had what can only be described as a singing voice that would make the angels jealous.

Anyway, she changed her name to Cass Elliot, and after a while she joined a band called The Mamas and the Papas, which also included one of her best friends, a man called Denny Doherty. 

The band also included a married couple named John and Michelle Phillips.  They all got along pretty well.  Then Cass realised something.  She was actually truly, madly and deeply in love with Denny.  But he was also her best friend.  She didn't know quite what to do about it.  So she did nothing.

Then she discovered that Denny was having an affair with Michelle (the one who was married to John!).  This devastated Cass, although she never stopped loving Denny or being his best friend.

Then, just before the Mamas and Papas split, Cass asked Denny to marry her.  She told him that she'd always loved him and told him she could make him happy.  He said no.  And you know what the only reason at the time he said no was???  Because she was too fat.

I know.  Bastard.  (heavenly voice though!)

Anyway.  Five years later, Cass died of a heart attack.  It was only then that Denny realised how much he loved her - and now he regrets not marrying her when he had the chance.

Now.  Over to you lot.

Hypothetically speaking, given that story you've just read, if ever you discovered that all along you were madly in love with your best friend - your soulmate possibly - would you tell him?  Even if THAT ended up happening and he wasn't in love with you??  Would him knowing how you felt make things awkward between you?  Would you rather it was out in the open so as to keep your relationship permanently open and honest with no secrets as all best friends should be??  Or would you be too worried something like THAT would happen and end up breaking your heart???

I mean obviously this IS hypothetical and I'm not for one moment referring to ME (you know me and MY views towards the L word!!  IT'S WRONG!) - because my best friend is a girl!!  And my male best friend is... well... he's practically one of the girls anyway so he doesn't count.  It's just I find it an extremely sad situation to get into, and it's another of my main reasons for never being silly enough to fall in love.  But surely things would never be ABLE to be the same again - and wouldn't that be the worst thing possible?  Wouldn't you rather have a lifetime's friendship than an instantly broken heart and no friendship just cos of you and your big gob saying something that was best left unsaid??

What would YOU do???

Mood - Contemplative - and desperate for a job!
Music - The Mamas & Papas Complete Anthology
Edited - Never

Gosh I never knew allll that about the Mamas and the Papas!

What would I do?  Hypothetically, I would probably not say anything because I'd be too scared to.  I'd bottle it all up and knowing me, I'd get drunk one night and blurt it all out anyway, but if that didn't happen then I don't know.

I'd probably end up hating myself because I was too much of a wimp for nopt saying anything and letting a good thing pass and then I'd probably end up hating him because he made me hate myself.

Boy that is contemplative.  Hope everything is ok in Preston!
Posted by:Im_a_Teapot

Im_a_Teapot WWW 

date: 19/06/2006 22:05 GMT
I did know all that about the Mamas and the Papas - its heatrbreaking stuff!

It depends on how how think that person would react.  If you're best friends with someone then you have a rough idea of what reaction they might have to certain situations.  Try to gauge his feelings on that kind of subject.  Tell him about the Mama Cass story & see what his reaction is.

Maybe I'd analyse my feelings and make sure I was definitely in love before I said anything.

Heavy hypotheticals there luv!
Posted by:nezangel

nezangel WWW 

date: 19/06/2006 23:32 GMT
It is better to regret something done, than something not done.

Trust me - I've arsed it up once already, and fate hasn't given me another chance since.
Posted by:jodievdw


date: 20/06/2006 17:13 GMT
Well, this is my opinion: I think it's okay to tell him/her about your feelings because it is better not to bottle things up. Besides, that best friend may just love you back, you never know. If he/she doesn't, either way your best friendship will be tarnished one way or the other: it may be awkward if you do tell him/her your feelings, but the friendship may also be spoiled if you don't because you'll feel conflicted about bottling things up and your feelings. Admittedly, I wouldn't really know as I haven't been in that sort of sad situation.
Posted by:ek


date: 20/06/2006 19:16 GMT
Wow I also never knew that about the Mamas and the Papas.    I think the best advice is probably what Jodes suggested, who wants to bottle all that emotions up just to have it explode like one of Graeme's homemade atom bombs ...pppsssttt.  I must say this is probably a bit to deep for me ...there are some places I just don't like to visit...ever heard of the term 'Goodtime Friend'  I have it emblazed on a T-shirt
Posted by:bondgirl


date: 20/06/2006 20:29 GMT
Must you always make me sad with that story??  Personally, I would tell the bloke about my feelings.  I'm presuming that hypothetically speaking, both these people would be mature adults?  So, therefore, pretty able to deal with most situations - no matter how sort of hairy they were.  And I agree with what Jodie says: it's always better to regret things you have done, than things you haven't done.  Those are wise words, indeed. 
That said, I've never been in that sort of situation and this is all a bit deep for a Thursday night.  You could be really sneaky, I suppose, and let the person find out in another way.  Or is that too sneaky?
Posted by:urban_spacegirl


date: 23/06/2006 03:30 GMT
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